or Wifelovers are often born out of the swinging
lifestyle as defined below. Swinging couples often find it difficult
to hook up with another couple as all four parties have to mesh.
Some open minded husbands who enjoy watching their wives get pleasure
from other men will often suggest meeting another man for a threesome.
Hence the Hot Wife is born. Many husbands enjoy
taking pictures of their hot wife with other men. They enjoy posting
these pictures on the Internet and "showing off their hot
wife". They enjoy her dressing sexy and being the object
of desire from other men. Ultimately though the husbands control
the sexual encounters their wives have with other men. They may
participate in a threesome with the other man or they may wait
until afterwards and enjoy "sloppy seconds".
These men do not want
to eat another mans sperm out of his Hot Wives
vagina as a cuckold might want to but they do enjoy the feel of
another mans sperm in their hot wives vagina on their penis. Hence
the term "sloppy seconds".
Hot wife couples
continue to participate in the swinging lifestyle with other couples
where as cuckold couples tend to be with only men exclusively.
sometimes referred to in North America as the swinging lifestyle
or simply The Lifestyle (although this simplified term is also
used by people into Leather and BDSM), is "non-monogamous
sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity,
that can be experienced as a couple."
can include (but are not limited to):
having sex with a partner while being watched. Hot Wives
are natural exhibitionists.
Voyeurism: watching others have sex (perhaps
with the above mentioned partner). Many husbands have voyeur tendencies.
Soft Swinging or Soft Swap: kissing, stroking,
or having oral sex with a third or fourth person. This may be
in the form of a threesome or group sex, or partners may literally
Full Swap: having penetrative sex with someone
other than one's partner, which is the commonly understood definition
of swinging (though not necessarily the most common type.)
Group Sex: An all inclusive term for activities
involving multiple partners in the same vicinity. Typically, swinging
activities occur when a married or otherwise committed couple
engages with either another couple, multiple couples, or a single
individual. These acts can occur in the same room (often called
same room swinging) though different or separate room swinging
does occur. Sex on these occasions is often referred to as play.
My Wifelover couples enjoy group sex.
husbands will often arrange for a group of men to have sex with
their hot wives at the same time.
The phenomenon (or
at least its wider discussion and practice) may be seen as part
of the sexual revolution of recent decades, which has occurred
after the upsurge in sexual activity possible due to safer sex
practices that became prevalent during these same decades.
While the vast majority
of swingers are heterosexual couples, a major part of Lifestyle
activities are bisexual in nature. A large portion of female swingers,
while they may or may not identify as bisexual, are interested
in female-female sexual contact. Male-male contact is more rare,
but does occur.
Swinging is sometimes
called wife swapping, but as it is andocentric and does not accurately
describe the full range of sexual activities that can swingers
may take part in, this term is now relatively archaic. A more
common term amongst swingers is simply The Lifestyle, as it is
becoming increasingly referred to in contemporary culture. Though
there are certain key differences in the implication of the two
terms, "The Lifestyle" and "swinging" will
be used interchangeably within the scope of this article.